Saturday, February 19, 2011

“It’s because it’s Christmas.”

Why do people insist on using situation to excuse behavior? The coworker who treats you like the dirty gum stuck to her shoe suddenly acts uncharacteristically sweet and thoughtful. ‘Why??’ you ask your friends. “Oh, it’s Christmas. Everyone’s nice at Christmas.” Now, I realize it’s sort of silly to complain about someone being nice, but honestly?? Season shouldn’t have that much bearing on how you treat others. That’s like excusing a girl acting like a witch because she’s PMSing. Hormones/bad mood is not an excuse to treat people like trash. Yes, you may feel like crap, but that’s your problem. you don’t have the right to take it out on everyone around you.

And that should work in both directions. If you detest someone so badly that you feel the need to treat them like scum, don’t spin around one day and sugarcoat them just cuz the there are twinkly lights around the windows. Kindness comes from the heart. And if it doesn’t, then it’s not truly kindness. It’s an obligation to whatever stigma is currently in the air. You show no kindness in pretending to get along for a day then returning to the way things were before, It’s stupid.

Be nice to me when you like me. Leave me alone when you don’t: though you could at least try be polite when you’re forced to endure my company. Just cuz you hate my guts, it doesn’t mean we cant at least passively work  together.;-p

Friday, February 18, 2011

A Short Farewell

Ok, when was it that ‘Goodbyes’ became such a long, drawn out process? I mean, you’re on the phone- or the internet, or in person, whatever- and its time to go, so you say (go figure), “Ok, well, I have to go. Bye!” and you’d think it would follow that the responder(respondent?) would say, “alright, bye!” and that would be that. Right? Noooope, instead you have at least a paragraphs worth of dialogue, all trying to fit into about a 2 minute interval, each of you trying to squeeze in those last best wishes that are so habitual to us. The result is something to the tune of:

 

Well-wisher#1: Ok, well I hope that helps-

well-wisher#2: Ohh yes, you’ve been a total angel! thank you soo much for everything-

W.W.#1: Oh, you’re welcome, not at al-

W.W.#2: ok, well thanks again, you-

together: have a good day!

(awkward giggle)

W.W.#2: Alright then, bye!

W.W#1: Ok, good- (line goes dead) umm… goodbye?

 

See what I mean? each is trying soo hard to be inoffensive and kind that they end up talking over each other, trying to make sure they get the last farewell in. If one was into psycho-analysis (yes, I’m afraid I am that nerdy), one could use this to fuel arguments about human nature. We’re endlessly goodhearted (hmmm), we have separation issues, we’re systematically and compulsively competitive, we’re threatened by the finality of a goodbye… yeah, something like that.

Personally, I think we’re all just so socially awkward that we overcompensate by throwing as many words out there as possible, hoping a few will hit the right tone. That, or literacy and articulation has fallen so far, we can’t say what we really mean anymore. *shrug* but that’s just a theory.

 

Just some thoughts from the Bat-cave. ;-)