Tuesday, October 29, 2013
There are too many false ideas of what it means to be feminine, what it means to be “girly”.
There are so many standards that people hold women to, so many concepts of what a woman is that women from 10-90 years old all feel inadequate, like traitors to their gender. They feel this way either because they are “frou-frou” girls told they need to be feminists, or because they're tomboys who feel they can’t be feminine without wearing dresses. I’m telling you: it has to STOP.
So, in an effort to empower the world to embrace TRUE womanhood, let’s settle some issues.
1. Being a woman is NOT ABOUT HYGEINE AND PERSONAL CARE.
You do not need to shave your legs in order to be feminine. You do not have to wear your hair long or in pigtails, polish your nails, wear makeup, get manicures, etc. These things are not what make a woman. these things are personal habits, that everyone (male AND female) choose to do or not as they prefer.
2. Being a woman is NOT ABOUT HOW YOU DRESS.
Wearing a bra does not make you a woman. Wearing a dress and heeled shoes do not make you a woman. Wearing only jeans and T-shirts does not make you a man. Again: It is a matter of preference.
Preferences, understand? Being a social norm does not make it any less a preference.
Now here are some things that I think being a woman IS about:
Yes, some of you hate this one. But the fact remains that most species on the planet are split into two parts: Male and Female. Humans happen to be one of those species. It has to do with how the body is constructed, what parts it has. The half that has a womb and/or lay eggs is called female.
(Disclaimer: having a child does not “make” you a woman either. The ability to do so does.)
2. Women share beauty.
Sounds hokey, right? Bear with me:
Every woman I know finds a way to share beauty with the world. Some of us do it through ourselves: We dress up our own bodies in various ways to show off our personal beauty, and (hopefully) we encourage others to do the same.
Some women share beauty through their works: creating art, cooking a meal, building a house, or working in communities to make life better. Or hell, how about the women that build and run machinery? those are some amazing and complex creations, that take a lot of skill just to operate.
Each one is sharing something unique with the world. Something no one else can. And that, my friends, IS Beauty.
So quite comparing yourselves to the latest “What’s hot” list. Those things change every day. Be your own beauty, and let yourself enjoy it.
Friday, October 25, 2013
Just finished Fable III and O.M.G.: I was a little disappointed.
The graphics were a lot of fun, and I really enjoyed that the female hero didn’t end up looking like a She-man (it’s the little things, understand). Gameplay was… ok. There were a few things I didn’t care for, but it was a bit ‘cleaner’ than the last two.
I kinda enjoyed the economics/diplomacy side of it, which may be unlike most players. The morality struggle was a bit heavy-handed, but that’s completely standard for the Fable universe. It’s part of what makes it amusing. But no, I enjoyed the follow through there.
However, I play games for the story more than anything else. (Go figure, right?) This story didn’t flow the as well as previous games. It wasn’t quite as flushed out.
The first game started out as a sort of hokey satire where you’re a snot-nosed little kid, and suddenly you’re thrust into a world of pain and danger and big choices.
The second follows that pattern: You’re an urchin dreaming of better, and suddenly you’re alone, making your way as best you can and avenging the deep hurt in your heart and the injustice that’s been served.
This one… Didn’t build up the Hero’s motive quite as well. The introduction was spot on; following the chicken as it struggles for freedom, blah blah, etc. But when you start gameplay and begin developing your character it moves too fast from the blissful naivety to leading a revolution. You’re introduced as someone with privilege but kept away from responsibility, then of a sudden you decide to lead not only a rebellion out of spite, but a world changing revolution? It’s… possible, but you need a bit more personal development in order to make the jump.
It’s a decent game, but the Fable II is still my favorite so far.
Wednesday, October 23, 2013
You know how every decade is known for a specific style? the 50s have the poodle skirts and bowling shoes, the 70s own the bell bottoms and shaggy hair, the 80s claim the Mohawks and the studded leather, etc, etc…
Walking through the mall today, I noticed that this current decade doesn’t have just one thing that stands out.
I took a walk through the mall today, and every ten feet was a different style, a different trend. This store was selling the early 90s; box-shouldered jackets, short skirts and fedoras, boots…
The next store was a tribute to the 1940s: We had amazing little leather shoes with laces, classic blouses, pencil skirts and some of the best formalwear you’ll ever see (The 30s was better still, but lets not get carried away).
Even in one store, you had a wide assortment of style, from 60s geometric patterns to Victorian-esque corseting and “marching band” lapels.
I’m telling you: There is no fad for the 20-teens. Our fad is NO fad. I’m very trepidatious about this, but I suppose it’s a good thing? I mean, we’re more in a place to appreciate everything I suppose.
At the same time, it feels like a vacuum of power; no one clique is on top. No one is an outcast for wearing the wrong shoes, because EVERYONE is wearing the wrong shoes! We are living in “10 Things I Hate About You”, where you have the wannabe Rastas and Bohemians sitting at the table next to the Rodeo kings.
I don’t know folks… This could be an interesting season.
Friday, October 18, 2013
Another blustery November coming up and Guess WHAT time it is?
I’m really excited to write a novel again for NaNoWriMo. I have a handful of plots to choose from; I’m weighing three in specific, and I hope to make up my mind in the next week!
I’m also a bit trepidatious, as I’m trying to finish up my last one. I’m currently editing my manuscript (The Rooftops Of London), and I have it away to some beta readers for feedback. This process is a bit more trying than I anticipated; It’s difficult to switch gears from creating to altering in my head.
I’m sitting on pins and needles, waiting to hear what my gals have to say about it. I know it needs a lot of work before it’s ready, but I’m determined to make my New Years publishing goal.
Nevertheless, I am determined to write a new novel again this coming month. I suppose binge writing really isn’t the best way, but it’s helping me get through the 8+ plots I have floating around in my head! Next step is getting smoother at the revision and publishing steps…