Why do people insist on using situation to excuse behavior? The coworker who treats you like the dirty gum stuck to her shoe suddenly acts uncharacteristically sweet and thoughtful. ‘Why??’ you ask your friends. “Oh, it’s Christmas. Everyone’s nice at Christmas.” Now, I realize it’s sort of silly to complain about someone being nice, but honestly?? Season shouldn’t have that much bearing on how you treat others. That’s like excusing a girl acting like a witch because she’s PMSing. Hormones/bad mood is not an excuse to treat people like trash. Yes, you may feel like crap, but that’s your problem. you don’t have the right to take it out on everyone around you.
And that should work in both directions. If you detest someone so badly that you feel the need to treat them like scum, don’t spin around one day and sugarcoat them just cuz the there are twinkly lights around the windows. Kindness comes from the heart. And if it doesn’t, then it’s not truly kindness. It’s an obligation to whatever stigma is currently in the air. You show no kindness in pretending to get along for a day then returning to the way things were before, It’s stupid.
Be nice to me when you like me. Leave me alone when you don’t: though you could at least try be polite when you’re forced to endure my company. Just cuz you hate my guts, it doesn’t mean we cant at least passively work together.;-p